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TRAUMA-A BARRIER TO SELF FORGIVENESS.

Trauma refers to distressing event that occurs to someone or occurs to ones environment.When these events occur and not fully processed,they can further advance and develop to post traumatic stress disorder.There are many causes of trauma that we experience in our day to day lives.The various painful events that occurs in our environment like accidents cause trauma.Consider the case of a young boy or a girl who witnessed accident at a very early age.

Neglect.Neglect is another main cause of trauma.Neglectful parenting style tend to give less attention to children and less care to kids.Therefore these children tend to fail in academics,receive little or zero support.Support they tend to lack include emotional support, physical support, mental support and social support.With all these lack of support,a child develops what is called inferiority complex.Inferiority complex is a feeling that you are being demeaned or degraded.

At a times parents may have domestic conflicts and violence in the same house and maybe a room shared with kids.For parents maybe they will not see the impact the domestic violence can have on their childrens mental health.Domestic violence is a great pathway leading to trauma among children and there is need to improve on the effective methods of solving conflicts such as negotiations, mediation, arbitration and dialogue if at all we want the best out of our children.

Observational learning or social learning refers to learning through imitation and by children observing their parents solve disputes through unrecommended methods then they will have to imitate and copy these ineffective ways.Later in life,if at all the problem is not solved, processed and healing not arrived at, then they can affect ones life either psychologically, mentally, socially and emotionally.These characteristics can show up in terms of drugs and substance use and even development of emotional and behavioural disorders.

With all the painful early childhood experiences that we face,self forgiveness is very key.Self forgiveness refers to the ability to accept that an individual faced trauma and makes appropriate steps towards the healing process.Self forgiveness is a value that each and every individual should have so as to ensure our overall physical, social, mental and psychological wellbeing.In doing this,we will have the opportunity to heal from this terminal disease called Trauma.

Counselling, therapy and psychological support is the first way one can consider to ensure attainment of self forgiveness.In counselling and therapy,a counsellor or a psychologist will have to give insights and shed light on the various causes of trauma, effects of trauma and mainly the constructive coping mechanisms that one can adopt to ensure proper healing from either acute or chronic trauma.Through counselling self awareness is also enhanced.Self awareness is having knowledge about your thoughts, behaviours and actions.

Social networks also serve a very fundamental role when it comes to efforts in effectively curbing trauma.By having a social group,one can have the chance to share their experiences and by doing this an individual realizes that he or she is not alone in the journey of battling with the same problem.